“It’s cruel, and can really hurt the well-endowed person’s feelings. “The partner of the man with the larger penis can feel insecure, as if he’s less than, and can devalue the partner with the larger penis,” Zinn says. But to have another person reduce you to just being a big dick then this can be hurtful in the same way a guy is belittled for having a small penis.”īeing unable to penetrate as deep as desired was on top of the list of disadvantages, as is jealousy. “If a guy has a larger penis and is into being fetishized that is one thing. “Many of these men feel fetishized it is very hurtful to them to be wanted for one body part,” he explains. “Both partners are then left longing for anal penetration and not being able to have it with one another-at least not as often as they would like,” he says. Consequently, the top feels badly not wanting to hurt his partner. “The issue with my clients is that it often hurts the partner and sexual positions are limited.” As a result, Kort explains the bottom may not want anal penetration as frequently. I’ve also made guys bleed and nearly vomit.” Another man I spoke to once sent his partner to the hospital, as his size caused an anal fissure and excessive bleeding.Īccording to Kort, “big dick privilege” exists because we’re taught that large penises should be revered and that all partners, male or female, want one. “I go deeper than your douche, so make sure you’re thorough when you clean. “I’ve had so many instances of shit-dick it’s not even funny,” he says.
The degree of the injury may require an ice pack, a catheter, or even surgery to restore the urethra. Because a fracture can cause sexual and urinary dysfunction, it is recommended they see a doctor. I don’t want to disappoint.”ĭuring intercourse, Brad has experienced all of the difficulties that come with a big dick, including multiple penile fracture scares-which occur when a penis is bent to such an extreme angle that it ruptures the fibrous coverings that envelop the shaft (it’s happened to me and it’s grotesque)-when bottoms weren’t being careful. “When guys take it to the extreme–talking about my dick, looking at my dick, or making it their phone background (yes, that’s happened)– it can become too much pressure to perform. “They will either take my dick and then ghost me, or absolutely worship it, which drives me more insane,” Brad continues. The reaction to bigger penises is often polarizing. In reality, he’d only had two sexual partners. “But most frequently, I would say the attention my dick gets over me as a person has been the biggest downside.” In college, Brad reluctantly garnered a reputation for his sizeable member everyone assumed him to be a sexual deviant (most men I spoke with shared that they are often assumed promiscuous). “I’ve definitely been turned down for sex or sex wasn’t possible,” Brad, 26, who measures 9.5 inches, says. Prepare all you want, but just imagine putting a Coke can in your ass and seeing what happens.”Ī big dick can also be too intimidating.
“People are either shocked that someone with a big dick is a bottom or they are determined to turn me into a full-on top, to which I tell them me topping has never not lead to a messy situation. “Being someone who generally as a bottom-though my profile says ‘vers bottom’-because I dabble-it has yielded some interesting responses,” he says. As a versatile man, he rarely gets to experience the pleasures of bottoming because he’s often told the bigger guy tops.Įthan, 26, who also measures 8 inches, often finds himself in the same position-literally. James, 35, who measures 8 inches, tells me that his generous package sways most of his partners to bottom. “That’s a hard place to be when you love or care about your partner, and entering him hurts him.” “If a partner isn’t physically comfortable with a larger penis, it can feel like a deterrent as it causes physical pain,” sex and relationship therapist Janet Zinn explains to me in a phone interview.
The Journal of Sexual Medicine has verified the average penis measures at roughly 5.6 inches technically, that means anything larger is considered “big.” While research tells us that “ideal” penis sizes are much larger, less than 3% of the world’s population measures over 8 inches.īut while a big dick may be praised and envied, the reality is it can often be a detriment, especially for gay men who engage in anal sex.